Earlier this week I wrote about how my seventeen year old son is struggling in several of his classes and how his father and I have two very different ways of going about making sure our son brings up his grades.
His way : you can lead a horse to the water but you cant make them drink it too. His own destiny is in his hands.
My way : by rewarding the “horse” (not calling my son a horse) with amusement parks, video games, computer privileges, phone, his girlfriend, fun outings with family instead of being held accountable for all his missing work then of course he is going to have a no care attitude about things. He is 17 …I just feel we need to keep on him until he is an adult.
I assumed that since he is a teacher and teaches at the same school that my son attends that he would want our son to excel. Knowing my ex-husband, he would not like anyone to think bad of him …… so why would he want to have his co-workers think that he is ok with his son failing several classes? In a way I see my sons failing grades as a reflection of his home life…..I believe if his father sat with him to see exactly where he is having the problems and explained it to him then I think a light bulb would go off in our sons head and if he (ex) didn’t understand the lesson then there are tutors at the school. Shit, I had to do this a few times when I couldn’t help my children with their homework.
I was baffled when I read this part of my ex’s email:
“We (teachers) only tell the parents what the parents want to hear so they know we have done everything we can”
Really? is that true? I truly believe that there are teachers out that that don’t blow smoke just to get the parents off their back. I want to believe that they are just as frustrated as the parents and are glad when a parent contacts them.