What is it with mothers who refuse to let their adult sons grow up? I get calls frequently at work from mothers who call on behalf of their adult son asking to either make an appointment or just checking up on the status of the sons account. When I ask how old the son is or pull up the person account I can see that the person in question is very capable of calling for himself but I am also aware that the mother refuses to release him from her boob……………which is probably sagging like a cows utter!!
I normally will request that I speak to the manchild because it’s time for him to grow up and take responsibility for something as simple as making his own appointment or checking on the status of his account. Sometimes I get some backlash with my request but I always respond with “well with all do respect your son if 42 years old and is capable of completing the call”.
Mommas boys truly drive me crazy, I married one a few years ago and that marriage lasted less than one year. Was his attachment to his mom partly to do with the demise of our marriage? I would say it played a good part in it. Any argument, any decision that we were facing to make was shared with his mommy and more times then none the words he spoke were those of his mothers because he was incapable of thinking for himself. I found out later that before I came into the picture his mommy paid his mortgage and other bills. When I called the police to come get his ass because he laid hands on me and my daughter, his mother came to the house and yelled at me for putting her son in jail. REALLY?? That took the cake, in her eyes her son could do no wrong.
I have a 17 year old son and when he was younger he WAS all about his momma but when he got older I refused to enable him. He had to learn to grow up and do things on his own. I remember when I asked him to do a load of laundry his reply was “I don’t know how and I don’t need to learn because when I have a girlfriend or wife she will do it for me” that kind of thinking made him do ALL the laundry the evening. HAHA
To those Mothers who are enabling your adult boys, it’s time to release them from your bosom and let them become men. They are perfectly capable of calling for their own appointments, they are perfectly capable of making their own meals, doing their own laundry and finding a job to support themselves. You did your duty and raised him…..it’s time for you to live your OWN life.